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How much to trust?

23 Dec

When a father asks his child who is standing on a book shelf to jump in his arms, it does unhesitatingly. It has a complete trust in his dad and  a belief that he will come to no harm .That kind of trust is never possible in this cynical world where we believe that we are vulnerable when we trust someone. But without some trust can the world move on? Do we not  walk on the road peacefully trusting that other vehicle  users of road follow the rules ? Do we not send young children out to play believing no one will take them away? Can there be love and joy without some basic trust in human goodness?

When we go to a doctor and get some medicines prescribed, we trust his judgment implicitly and take the medicines. Likewise when we buy medicines from chemists, we believe that they are not duplicates or fakes. In our day to day transactions we trust people to a large extent as otherwise life would become unhappy. There may be disappointments on a few occasions no doubt but we should learn to live with it and not distrust everyone. Someone put it ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.”

Trust is based on the belief that others have confidence in you and your ability and will not take unfair advantage of you. It is  the ability to create relationships with others based on mutual respect and caring. Good friends never betray your trust.

 Uncongenial atmosphere of hate or lack of love, divorced parents, emotional and physical abuse, broken relationship, death of close relative, chronic illness and low self esteem could all lead to lack of trust and suspicion.Getting over this is not easy without constant practice and motivation from others. I would put a strong faith in God as the first step. This belief that He would take care of your troubles would gradually reduce the mistrust and enable you to ‘let go’ the hurts and disappointments. Mingling and living with positive minded people would provide the healing environment.Overcoming unwanted fears, developing self esteem in one’s capabilities and building trusting relationships after due care would be the way to go about to get over this malaise.

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3 Comments

Posted by on December 23, 2008 in Uncategorized

 

3 responses to “How much to trust?

  1. Ayesha

    December 23, 2008 at 5:57 pm

    Another excellent article from you. You are right; trust along with compassion make the basis of any strong relationship. Moreover, you have correctly pointed out that faith in God is extremely important. "After darkness there is light; trust in God and do the right."Thank you a thousand times KP. My best wishes to you.

     
  2. madhumitha

    December 24, 2008 at 9:52 am

    Trust is the basic thing required between two people. Well written article.Keep it up.

     
  3. Parthasarathi

    December 24, 2008 at 4:04 pm

    Thank you madhumitha and Ayesha. KP

     

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